Self-Management (or Self-Regulation) and Emotional Intelligence
Emotional intelligence is foundational to effective leadership. It guides interactions, helps resolve conflicts, and aids in sound decision-making.
Emotional intelligence encompasses the capacity to recognize, understand, and manage our emotions and our response to others’ emotions. Self-management describes one of the steps in the process, as it goes beyond awareness and determines behavior.
What is the difference between Self-awareness and Self-regulation?
Last week, we discussed Self-Awareness. How is that different from Self-Management (Self-Regulation)?
Self-regulation (or self-management) is a crucial component of emotional intelligence. Self-management regulates our emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations.
Self-regulation enables individuals to maintain control, avoid impulsive actions, and constructively respond to stress.
You have likely been around leaders (and others in the workplace) who should demonstrate a good grasp of managing themselves—and fail.
Most people will gravitate to the leaders (or anyone!) who remain brilliantly calm in circumstances that would have tested the best of us.
Self-management is emotional regulation
At its core, self-management is about emotional regulation. We “show up” in a way that positively influences those around us.
You recognize emotional triggers and implement strategies to manage these emotions constructively. For instance, someone with strong self-management skills will remain calm under pressure, think clearly, and make rational decisions even when faced with challenging circumstances.
Another significant aspect of self-management is adaptability. Emotionally intelligent individuals can adjust their strategies and behaviors in response to changing conditions.
Self-management (self-regulation) – 4 Key Questions for Self Reflection
- Can you handle unexpected challenges without becoming overwhelmed?
- Can you pivot when things go awry and adapt to new circumstances?
- Can you practice self-discipline and stick with your focus while resisting the impulse to derail for short-term satisfaction?
- Are you patient during inevitable delays and “issues” when working with projects and people?
Self-management is the cornerstone of leadership effectiveness. It involves controlling emotions, impulses, and behaviors in various situations. You facilitate sound decision-making and foster trust and respect among team members.
Self-management utilizes stress management techniques
Here are just a few suggestions to help you develop your self-regulation muscle:
Mindfulness practices:
Mindfulness activities such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or reflective journaling can help leaders enhance self-awareness and regulate their emotions more effectively.
Stress management: Some proven techniques you might want to try (or try again!):
- Prioritizing tasks
- Delegating responsibilities
- Seeking support when needed
Continuous learning:
Embracing a growth mindset and actively seeking opportunities for self-improvement empowers leaders to adapt to change, acquire new skills, and stay relevant in an ever-evolving workplace.
Seeking feedback:
Soliciting feedback from peers, subordinates, and superiors allows leaders to gain insights into their strengths and areas for development. By embracing constructive criticism with humility, leaders demonstrate a commitment to personal and professional growth.
All that to say
Emotional intelligence and self-management are indispensable qualities that elevate managers from good to great leaders.
By cultivating emotional intelligence skills and practicing effective self-management, leaders can nurture a culture of trust, collaboration, and excellence within their teams.
Interesting note: Although we write weekly for leaders, these principles are for everyone! We enjoy better lives at work and at home when we operate from a place of mature Emotional Intelligence (EI).
What to Watch
This week, they are all videos – enjoy.
- How Emotional Intelligence Makes Leaders More Impactful | Gemma Garcia Godall | TEDxIESEBarcelona
- Leading with Emotional Intelligence | Ben Zoghi | TEDxTAMU
- The Power of Emotional Intelligence | Travis Bradberry | TEDxUCIrvine
- Six steps to improve your emotional intelligence | Ramona Hacker | TEDxTUM
- The People Currency: Practicing Emotional Intelligence | Jason Bridges | TEDxWabashCollege
- Strategies to Become More Emotionally Intelligent | Daniel Goleman | WOBI
